Platinum Weddings are ridiculous?

Sharron Salin: Nope, can't justify it for myself. Some people can. Some people are multi-billionaires who have $500k here and there to spend on a one day affair. Is it responsible? No. I think some charitable organizations would be a far worthier cause than a one day "Look at me!" bash. My husband and I got married for under $4k last summer. It was the wedding we wanted with the people we wanted to share it with. I still look back on my pictures and remember the day fondly, as do our guests. I agree with the answerer who noted that PW couples are more about the show rather than their own relationship. I watched one where the groom referred to their wedding as "a production." A production? I thought that was very telling because that means he views weddings as shows for entertainment and attention, rather than event, which is about celebrating a major life step. My husband made a very good point about couples that spend grotesque amounts of money on their weddings: If that! 's how much a bride demands to spend on her wedding, how much will her new husband-to-be have to spend to keep her happy throughout the marriage? You can't expect a woman to have a $500k bash, and then be satisfied with a moderate spending life. How much will need to be spent on her children's birthday parties? Anniversaries?...Show more

Julee Lanham: AGREED.You can spend your own money on whatever you want, but going into debt and jeopardizing your financial security just to have an extravagant princess wedding is the height of stupidity.

Joie Kemmis: Am trying to think why you want to marry a widow?a: moneyb: ready made familyc: moneywhat a low life...Show more

Chi Alfero: At the very back of any mag they have a "Shopper's Page" (not entirely sure if that's what its called) and would tell you where to get the dress you like. Really, wherever you saw the dress there has to be a credit somewhere. In today's day and age you can't take a picture without pro! viding credit to the photog and the designer.. Just sometimes ! you have to do some digging.If you've also seen it online then it might be somewhere ithe link, but if just in the mag then you gotta do some digging in the back.If you're still not sure perhaps you could scan a pic or provide a link to it.. Someone might recognize it....Show more

Ambrose Mumma: I'm invited to my first Indian wedding and Im going to wear a saree and was wondering if wearing a maang tikka is okay for a Christian wedding.Also for the church ceremony can I wear the saree or should I wear something else? ps. I'm not Indian so im super clueless.Thank you!!!...Show more

Peggy Sandefer: Do they have bingo in India? Just kidding.... you need to find someone who does arranged marriages in India to find you a nice widow who is looking for companionship as well.

Rocio Karvis: Keep looking. Why a widow.

Edmund Rappley: If they're in debt, they certainlty aren't anybody. No one should ever go into debt for a wedding. In our society, people val! ue the things we have, but no one ever figures in that most of those people are in debt for what they have. So sad :( I can't believe the parents would allow that. I got married in May, and boy what a nightmare if I was still paying for it. That would just plain suck.

Kaley Lappas: It's all about personal choice. Just like how a couple with a low budget wedding shouldn't be put down for their wedding, a couple that can afford a high end wedding shouldn't either. I feel strongly against anyone going into debt for the sake of a wedding that they can't afford. But if you can reasonably afford it, have a house, and other priorities taken care of, why not? Again, it's a personal choice. I also would like to add that if the couple has worked hard and SMART with their money and can afford a high end wedding (without debt), they deserve to have any kind of party that they would like. Why work so hard for your money and then feel like you shouldn't have the type of celebra! tion you would like just because of how the rest of society would feel ! about it.. It also has another factor: people run in different social circles, and so what may seem extreme to you may be what's considered "normal" for their social circle. I know I will get a lot of thumbs down on my response (I always do) but it's just that in life you need to look at the fact that everyone is very different with very different bank accounts....Show more

Pasty Cobbett: You're right they aren't and my FH thinks they are nuts for spending so much $ on ONE day. And of course they all have to have the club-like reception.I think it is neat, and if I had lots and lots of money I would still have a normal style wedding, but with upgraded everything and pay for my guests to travel to my wedding instead. I wouldn't have a club-reception, that's too much.However, weddings are an entire industry providing jobs for lots of people, so you can look at some of the positive aspects in that way....Show more

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Esmeralda Pigram: If thes! e people and their parents want to spend their money on it, I would say it is their perrogative. Whether or not they would be in debt is up to their finances. It has nothing to do with being royalty. No one every said having money means you have class.

Lawana Neemann: a widow?hmmtry your local grocery store...lol

Inez Relihan: i dont have the magazine anymore. i was hoping someone else would have one and be able to find it

Valentine Willinger: Come on now, man! Find a good woman, not a specific type of woman. you are just gonna have to grow up just a bit.

Luke Kosch: well, im 21 and im a widow,but y do u wanna marry a widow?

Rolanda Merritt: I don't feel sorry for parents who don't set limits for their kids.....that kind of indulgence is ridiculous, it's all for show/one-upmanship and I guarentee those couples go into a marriage with unreasonable expectations...we should be treated to the second half of the saga....Platinium Divorces, lol

Libby Berkovitch: WHY DO U WANT TO MARRY A WIDOW? SO U CAN CHEAT HE! R OUT OF HER MONEY???? MY MOM IS A WIDOW AND I WOULDNT LET U NEAR HERE, STAY SINGLE OR TURN GAY BUT DONT USE SOMEONE TO MOOCH OFF OF... GO VISIT ROSEY PALM AND HER 4 SISTERS THEY WILL HELP U ANYTIME U WANT...

Buddy Ardd: no need to dry up ur parents bank account. with that amount of money i would rather buy a house. anymore than 100,000 is completely excessive.

Lonnie Jehle: Check the obituaries section of the newspaper and try cruising funerals. Don't hit on them then; you gotta wait a few weeks for the will to be read. Then, when the time is right, swoop in and collect! Ka-ching!

Monroe Rainey: I think it is ridiculous also. All the money used for elaborate wedding can help with marriage expenses instead.. house, car bills, moving, or furniture.

Ivan Velazquez: I am 32 .I live in India .I do not have children .

Wilmer Skidmore: i think all these people that live in india supposedly are just full of b.s.! i'm not even going to contribute t! o an answer for this question! because you know it is spam, and if it's not, you know it is morally wrong!

Elfreda Grossen: Actually, I am a wedding coordinator that watches that show for ideas, and they are not putting their parents in to debt. The parents on that show are very, VERY able to pay obscene amounts of money on their kids weddings. I personally think its too much and over the top for a one day event, but, it just goes back to what we all each feel is important to us, for some its a giant wedding, for some its the bling bling, for some its a huge house, a fancy car, you can't take it with you and if these people have it and want to spend it on a one day event, so be it. ...Show more

Delmer Pectol: I watched one episode a few months back and I couldn't believe those people. You don't have to show off by spending every last dime on the planet. In fact, most people say the simpler weddings are usually the nicer since everyone is happier. Probably becaus! e they aren't drowning in debt. Meanwhile those who have spent their p! arents' retirement funds and those of their extended relatives are stuck not being able to pay monthly bills or afford a house or a new car when their other one breaks down or a multitude of things that they could have spent the money on that went to the wedding instead....Show more

Sharron Salin: If they go into debt, sure, it is ridiculous. However, some people have the money to do it. Our wedding cost between $25,000 and $30,000. It was lovely. Our honeymoon cost about another $5,000 and was funded by a generous gift from my husband's grandmother. I will treasure it always. It was wonderful.My husband's best friend had what I would call a platinum wedding. His wife's engagement ring is over 3 carats. They got married at the Fairmont in Sonoma. They had two days full of activities and a bar that was carved from ice with their initials. They can afford it, though, so it is fine with me and I was happy to be a guest at their wedding.My husband's best friend paid for t! he whole thing himself, not his parents. He made his own money with his own business and is a millionaire at 31....Show more

Letitia Bigelow: i think weddings are such a personal issue that we really shouldn't criticize people for their ideas however unique they are. we declined to attend a wedding recently because the bride demanded guests rent costumes and wigs re louis XV. there was no way my hubby was going to wear tights and a powdered wig - lol! however i agree that going into debt for a wedding is a huge mistake and i think that the people who allow their parents to go into debt are unfair and unreasonable in their expectations. it seems that their egos are all tied up in their wedding plans! our wedding was small and intimate, on the beach, it was pint-sized but it was perfect! we enjoyed it tremendously and it didn't leave any of us in debt! that is what i would wish for every b.2.b. - a wedding befitting their income that doesn't put them in debt.one p! oster here says anything more than 100,000. is excessive? wow! i'd say! anything more than four figures is excessive! it shows you just how different all our mind-sets are! lol...Show more

Eliseo Luma: People going into debt over a wedding is ridiculous. However, if you can afford it, I don't have a problem with "Platinum Weddings."

Claire Billegas: I totally agree. I think so many weddings are just getting out of control. I went to a very expensive wedding once and the grooms mother paid. Their wedding seemed more like a business dinner than a celebration. I think that the parents that are paying dearly for a wedding for their children just do it because it makes them(the parents) look good. I eloped with my husband. Our only guest was our daughter and our wedding cost $10. It was the best wedding I was ever at....Show more

Jeremy Donohue: I think u shud place matrimonial ads in the local newspaper and believe me u'd get flooded with proposals. I think u can try the various sites running online these days fill up u! r details there and just try ur luck.If ur a out going person then i'd have said clubs, get togethers, some group organisations which u cud join and get to know some guys.I think ur way too young to even bother and worry unnecessarily. u'd get a good man one whoz widowed or a fresh guy too coz sometimes guys or gals don't really bother of such things.I deduce that ur not so outgoing partying type of a person so try placing a matrimonial advt. in ur local newspaper, try the online sites and if u think maybe try yahoo personals too it's kinda good if u want to get ur match.Best luck and i know u'll find a better man to spend ur life with, take care and b good :) luck...Show more

Moises Rupinski: I'm getting married next july and i am way behind on my planning. especially since i'm have two weddings in two different states. my second wedding is going to be more of a reception for those family members who wont be able to make it to alaska for the actual wedding. i don't w! ant to wear a full gown to this seeing as it will be less formal of an ! affair. i saw a dress in the magazine "the Knot" that was a short strapless dress with a sheer polka-dot over lay type thing. i would love to know where to find this dress because i think it would be perfect for the second celebration. it was like a two piece dress. the underneath dress was a short, strapless, white, from fitting piece and then the top layer was the sheer polka dot piece and it was a tank style....Show more

Gladys Worthing: Dear, I agree, with one small exception: The part about putting parents into debt. The parents are big boys and big girls. If they're stupid enough to honor these ridiculous demands from their children, then they get what they deserve. The parents could simply tell the kids to pay themselves, or don't have a wedding.Worse, what people fail to realize, is that getting married isn't about "the big day". It's about "the rest of your life". Kicking off a life together with a huge, stressful, expensive event is not a good way to b! uild a solid future. Unfortunately, in my opinion, it seems to be an expectation these days....Show more

Lonnie Jehle: Hi.. since it is a christian wedding i would suggest you don't wear a maag tikka as it would look a bit over dressed for the occasion. Rather you could wear pretty earrings to go with your saree that would give u a complete look. You can look for some pretty earrings/jewelry on www.benzerworld.com.. they have gorgeous sets and good quality too.

Weldon Totaro: I agree with you. My husband and I just got married and only spent 3500 for the entire day. His sisters had a fit because they thought I should have this lavish day and I reminded them that I didn't have daddy paying for mine, I was financing my own. I also reminded them that I didn't need all these things too make me happy. I hope people realize that yes its nice to have a nice wedding but what really matters is the marriage which is supposed to last forever.